Interesting with Maggie O Farrell’s article today. One of the reasons we created the Fertility App was the type of experience women and couples can go through with the trials and tribulations of secondary infertility.

On an emotional level it is very common in my experience and the 1000’s of clients I have dealt with for the secondary infertility to arise because the second child will be of a different sex to the first and consequently the subconscious will trigger all the host fears of the mother or father potentially having to relive their own traumas from childhood through the newborn version of themselves or deep seated issues they had with mothering/fathering.

In Maggie’s article she had a son initially very easily and naturally, but obviously subconsciously knowing that she would be having a female child next surfaced all her own childhood expereinces and the subconscious attempted to block optimum fertility to try and ‘protect’ her from those past hurts.

Regardless of anyones’s belief in the soul and the subconscious, any couple experiencing infertility will by the very nature of being exposed to such a potent personal issue find themselves, talking more and sharing more on an emotional level and also discussing more openly thier fears, worries and doubts, which in some cases may even be enough to turn things around.

Jules x